you can be an elain stan while recognizing that she is in desperate need of growth and a healing arc and separation from the inner circle. her growth is hindered where she is and she lacks awareness and empathy. she needs to learn more and to grow. because right now, with the attitude that was displayed towards nesta in acosf (elain’s inability to understand her trauma), it’s clear that she would not be healthy for either lucien or azriel.